Become less reactive and more responsive

In life, we have essentially two psychological modes that we are in most of the
time: reactive and responsive. The reactive mode is the one that feels
stressful. In it, we feel pressured and are quick to judge. We lose perspective
and take things personally. We’re annoyed, bothered, and
frustrated.

Needless to say, our judgment and decision making capacity is
severely impaired when we are in a reactive state of mind. We make quick
decisions that we often regret. We annoy other people and tend to bring out the
worst in them. When an opportunity knocks, we are usually too overwhelmed or
frustrated to see it. If we do see it, we’re usually overly critical and
negative.

The responsive mode, on the other hand, is our most relaxed
state of mind. Being responsive suggests that we have our bearings. We see the
bigger picture and take things less personally. Rather than being rigid and
stubborn, we are flexible and calm. In the responsive mode, we are at our best.
We bring out the best in others and solve problems gracefully. When an
opportunity comes our way, our mind is open. We are receptive to new
ideas.

Once you are aware of these two drastically different modes of
being. You will begin to notice which one you are in. You’ll also notice the
predictability of your behavior and feelings when you are in each mode. You’ll
observe yourself being irrational and negative in your reactive mode and calm
and wise in your responsive state of mind.
infoyogee..................